The way we think and live mostly comes from how we were brought up as a child with the environment and home we lived in, and with the teaching we received. What you start out believing and living is mostly rooted in what your parents believe and how they lived. We may not have had the right upbringing, but if God has included you into His holy family He is committed to heal all the wrong that has influenced you or been done to you, and to guide you in His love and righteousness.
By your faithful commitment to walk with Jesus Christ, our Father is committed to how your life turns out and what you become. His Holy Spirit is perfectly committed to make sure you see, desire and accomplish the will of God for your life. No one else but Father God has our best at heart and works for our good future.
The Father is working in both you and your husband (even if you have not yet met your husband) to become the perfect match. Of course at the start, the two of you will struggle in the process of becoming one, but the Spirit of God is determined to help a husband and wife see what’s in their way of becoming one in Christ, and then provide them with the power to overcome.
“Jesus must become greater and greater, and I must become less and less.” John 3:30
You can read Psalms 112 along with Proverbs 31:10-31 for God’s description of the perfect match, in my opinion.
Although two people are ‘imperfect’ people, they are the perfect match if God brought them together. God brought me and my husband together in a nightclub before either of us genuinely gave our heart to Christ. We had very different upbringings.
Godly men who marry ungodly women, or godly women who marry ungodly men all find out eventually the conflict and heartache that comes from not being ‘equally yoked’ in what you believe about Jesus Christ and how you see the vows you make to one another.
God hates divorce, because He hates the self-righteousness of unforgiveness far more. When divorced couples move on to another relationship or marriage without seeing and confessing their own fault in why their marriage failed, they take that ignorance into the next relationship.
Separation, instead of divorce, is a good way to work on ourselves! We naturally want to blame the other person for our marriage failing, but it takes two to ruin a marriage. Do not be self-deceived! Make yourself live by Christ’s principles, not the world’s.
God is looking for husbands and wives He can pour out all His favor on to distinguish them from other husbands and wives that are quick to give up and move on. God is looking for marriages to bless and set up as good examples so that people will take notice and be drawn to how God blesses the humble and faithful.
God’s grace and standard has never changed and He is eager to bless the homes of the faithful where His grace is experienced and His standard honored, the best they know how. When He finds a home like this He is very pleased to bless that family. It’s all in God’s design with His promises.
Any imperfect match can become the ‘perfect’ match because “with God all things are possible to them that believe.” “Faith is the only thing that pleases God.” “The only thing that matters is faith expressing itself through love.” “Without love – I am nothing!” “Love never fails.” “Perfect love casts out all fear.” (All verses from God’s Word.)
God is love. Love comes from God. God created man because He wanted to express His love and have children to love Him back! “We love because He first loved us.” (Again His Word.) So go to God for how you need to love your husband and children. (Or husband, how you need to love your wife.)
Be wise and wait for God to show you the right person to marry so that the two of you become one in all things holy to the Lord. God’s purpose in every marriage is to reflect the true family and produce godly children, generation after generation without end. The family of God is eternal!