The Proverbs 31 Woman – Chapter 13 – Strong for Her Work

It is to a woman’s honor to be doing the ‘dignified’ work that fulfills her and rewards her. Women can do all kinds of work, but most women are not fulfilled in what they do, mainly because they choose the wrong man to marry and/or the wrong work to do that is not in agreement with who they really are as God’s daughters.


Many women are forced to take any job they can find just to provide for themselves and their children because they do not wait on the Lord for whom to marry, ending up with a man who depends on his wife to provide, or in a divorce.


Give your heart to Christ and wait on the right man to marry. Give your strength to the work in your marriage; stick to your vows and look to Christ’s instructions and testimonies in the Old Testament of wise and godly women on how to be quiet and pray, how to claim God’s promises and entrust yourself and your children to God. God is faithful; so remain faithful in what He says He will do according to His Word; for what He will do because of your childlike faith in Him. This is a work that will pay off BIG TIME!


Right choices will follow as we read God’s Word daily to show us His perfect and acceptable will. Waiting in prayer on the Lord to direct us on anything is not always easy. Our natural tendency is to act quickly and then ask God to bless us. We’ve got it backward there.


There’s work and then there’s WORK. The work that our God has for us to do that will further His Kingdom – is not always easy for us to do because of the 3 enemies against us: the flesh, the world and the devil. We will need the strength and wisdom of God, and the humility to know our own weaknesses. God gave us our weakness so that we would always go to Him and find Him faithful to the faithful.


Anyone can succeed in work to please themselves in the earthly life, but remember what Jesus said: “If anyone wants to come after Me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow Me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake and for the gospel will save it. What does it profit a man to gain the whole world, yet forfeit his soul?” Mark 8:34-36


Christ’s way is for us to prosper in what fulfills us as God’s true sons and daughters. There is a huge difference between prosperity God’s way and simply earning an income; between a worldly job and the work we are meant to do in this life as God’s children. Some jobs may be a stepping stone of acquiring knowledge and experience on the way for what you are meant to do. God will reveal that to you – if you have learned to listen to Him.


It is God’s will that we learn to be self-sufficient and not so dependent on what others do for us, and especially not on government hand-outs. There is greatness in every human being because we are made in the image of God. No other part of His creation has the abilities, inventiveness and assurance that He has put in mankind.


Most men do not know how to ‘properly’ provide for their wives and children, nor do they ‘truly’ understand why their wife and children need him to properly provide for them. Most men have not grown up learning how to work hard and earn their living, let alone provide for their wife and children. As I look out today I see that most girls are not being prepared for the work of marriage and family either. They work hard for a sport, or for a position in law enforcement or military, and for a successful occupation in the world. I watch commercials, television programs and movies today where the work that women do is recognized and honored in everything else but the work of their husband’s helpmate and the mother of children.


What young girls have been conditioned for is what I call the 3 w’s: worldliness, whoredom and waste. How rare it is to find a young girl who learns at home from her mother how to be a good wife, mother and homemaker, and to enjoy it. The work a little girl sees her mother doing can either make a young girl into a woman of great worth or into a foolish woman of the world.


You might think I’m old fashioned or stuck in the dark ages, but the truth is that God’s standard for manhood and womanhood has never changed, and “the true family” will be part of God’s “renewing of all things” when Jesus Christ returns to reign, “….until the time comes for God to restore everything, as He promised long ago through His holy prophets.” (Acts 3:21) “Of the increase of his government and peace there will be no end.” Isaiah 9:7


The godly woman works with vigor knowing full well that even though she receives little to no praise now for all she does – she will later, and is why she is strong for her work as a wife and mother; determined not to allow other women to influence her otherwise.


I will work vigorously if I’m sure my work is valid and vital to God no matter how insignificant it seems to others in this world. I can be busy with many things, but if my work is not suitable and necessary, by God’s definition, then all I thought was so important to do will actually be what shames me later when all my work is revealed by the fire that judges it. My desire is that my work would come through that fire of God’s testing as “gold, silver and precious stones” so that it glorifies my Father’s kingdom.


God cares more than you do about your earthly prosperity, future honor and eternal inheritance. He has given us so much, but how are we using what we’ve received from our Father that we’re entrusted with?


When you are doing what you are supposed to be doing – you will see a whole lot of fruit come from very little effort. This is because God blesses the work of righteousness and faith in Him. He shows His favor by making people favor or submit to you, making circumstances work for you, and making doors open before you exactly when you need an open door.


The Lord has said to His children who seek to glorify His kingdom, “Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened to you.” (Matthew 7:7)


God has assigned ‘woman’ the work that best suits her feminine nature. Our value and worth as a woman is rated by how well we do what we are designed and destined to do. You can be sure that if a woman tries to do ‘man’s work’ that she will be of no real value to anyone except the devil and his evil purposes. Yet, we learn that when there are no real men around to do God’s will – God just might call on a wise and courageous woman that listens to Him, trusts Him and obeys Him, such as Deborah in the Bible when the Israelite men were to go fight and conquer their enemy. (See the book of Judges)


Deep down inside every woman is true femininity longing to manifest and be glorified. She will not be able to enjoy a life that takes her ‘outside’ her true self, no matter how hard she tries.


I must work until the Lord shows me that I have accomplished all that I was to do because if ‘I’ don’t do it – it won’t get done. No one else can be my husband’s helpmate but me. No one else can mother my children but me. No one else has a testimony about my Savior and Lord, like mine that is to be shared, but me. No one else has the combination of talents, gifts of the Holy Spirit and life’s experiences, that I have and that God desires to use. It’s mine to put to good use, and my Father is holding me accountable.


After my children grew up, got married and left home, I thought my work was done in raising (teaching) them. My husband and I were thinking all was well with our children because we had married them all off to the ones we were certain God picked for them; our prayers being answered for all four of our children. One day the Lord said to me: “You are not done teaching and training your children.” Our parenting work wasn’t over as far as God was concerned. He could see what was ahead for each couple that would test their faith in Him and their vows to each other. They would need to hear our testimony and counsel, especially as they raised our grandchildren.


“The older women of God are to teach the younger women of God what is good, to train them to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”  Titus 2:3-5


Women today, even Christian women, don’t want to hear that there is such a thing as “woman’s work” or “man’s work,” that clearly defines the difference between men and women. Marriage and family becomes perverted when men are raised to do woman’s work and women are raised to do man’s work. (This is not referring to how we help each other at times.)


When wives/mothers hire out their work as a wife and mother, the true enjoyment of their marriage, home and family is not experienced. When you hire someone else to do what you are supposed to do – it won’t have the best result, in fact it will probably have the worse results with your marriage and children. Most women hire out their work simply because they do not like doing it themselves, or don’t have the time because they have chosen other work to do. (It’s not right but for most, a divorced woman must work outside her home to provide for herself and her children, and can’t afford to hire out the work of her home; she comes home from work and keeps working.)


What a waste of your life not to have known your true purpose in life. Jesus set free a woman when He said to her: “I do not condemn you, but go now and leave your life of sin.”  (John 8:11)


We need God’s Spirit to help us do the work we are meant to do, and to leave the “sinful empty life” behind to live the life that is worthy of who we are in Christ Jesus. The Proverbs 31 woman is our standard and encouragement in any and all generations.


Wisdom has built her house….let the simple come in and learn wisdom. Let those who lack judgment come in and learn to walk in the way of understanding. Those who come in – will live!” (Proverbs 9:1-6)



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