“May the Lord make you increase, both you and your children. May you be blessed by the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.” Psalms 115:14-15
What happens to a girl or woman who has no interest in anything that’s of real value; no worthy field to work in; no worthy dream to go after? She becomes idle. She begins to do worthless things; things she shouldn’t do. Idleness is not the absence of activity; it’s the neglect of doing that which is worthy and about our Father’s business. Paul tells us to warn those who are idle. (1 Thessalonians 5:14) Why the warning?
God cares more than we do about our work being an investment towards something greater that glorifies God and His Kingdom. God tells us through Paul’s teaching that wives are wise to settle down and be busy at home helping their husbands, raising their children, and being wise household managers.
This “field of motherhood” is the most important for a woman, unless the Lord has chosen her to be unmarried and barren for His purpose. Raising children and caring for elderly parents (incapable of taking care of themselves) are two types of fields a woman can work in, but there are other fields as well that involve abandoned children and neglected widows and elderly people. Let me just say that although there are many fields to work in – as a Christian woman it is very important to know the right field you should be working in if not as a wife and mother. Go to the Lord and wait on Him to show you YOUR field.
The field of motherhood has been disregarded by worldly women as worthy of their strength, time and the image they desire to have for themselves. This rich field of motherhood is being overtaken with thorns and thistles especially in America where family is any group of people you want to call “family.”
Women are called “mothers of the living,” but they make themselves barren by the way they think and live, doing things to their bodies that should not be done, and with the things they take to prevent having children. The women’s liberation movement in America has done great harm to marriage and family.
The world needs more mothers not more madonnas. We don’t need any more wild depraved women telling little girls how to think, behave, work and have fun. Rock stars, movie stars and fashion models do not set the motherhood standard; godly women set the standard; namely those women with the attitude and behavior of the Proverbs 31 Woman.
Margaret Sanger with her introduction of birth control, including abortion, has robbed society of the most wonderful human beings. The Lord looks down and is grieved and angered because….. “He looked for justice, but saw bloodshed; for righteousness, but heard cries of distress.” (Isaiah 5:7) If you think that God does not see or hear what goes on in our wombs, in our homes and in the land where we live – you’re shamefully wrong. You will one day face that human being you aborted, and then what will you say?
Where or how does a girl or woman learn to mother her children God’s way? How can she be confident that all her labor and sacrifice will not disappoint her in the end, or disappoint her husband, or her adult children? I had a young Christian woman tell me, right after she had her first child, that she was a good mother. It angered her when I responded with: “You won’t know if you’re a good mother until your children are grown.” We want to believe that just because we feel so ‘in love’ with our little angels – that somehow that makes us a good mother.
“Wisdom is proved right by her children; wisdom is vindicated by all her children; wisdom is justified by all her children.” Luke 7:35 (various translations)
Father God has given all women the perfect guideline to learn and live by in the biblical passage of Proverbs 31:10-31. God’s definition of a woman, of marriage and motherhood has NEVER changed. Satan has deceived women with the same trickery he used on Eve, the first woman; that of leading her husband and challenging God’s Word.
It is not right to have a child for someone else as we see in the rise of ‘hired’ surrogates in leasing and employing the wombs of women. This is detestable to God.
I hear more and more women saying that they don’t want any children and if they are married their husbands have to go along with it because it’s her body. Really? “Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20) “The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:4)
Women have been created with a womb for bringing their own children into the world. Their wombs are not for hire. Sarah wanted to give Abraham his first child, but she was barren at the time. They both had a promise from God that they would have a son, but Sarah didn’t want to wait on the Lord to open her own womb so she used the womb of Hagar, her maid-servant. Like a fool, Abraham went along with it, and the rest is history. The slave-woman’s son (with every generation after) and the free-woman’s son (with every generation after) have been enemies ever since. You just can’t use the womb that way and it not cause serious problems!
The only thing that can change a woman’s natural desire for child bearing is the continual unnatural teaching being pounded into her head. Little girls and little boys are now growing up being taught to believe that God made a mistake in the womb with gender selection, and it’s not the gender you are born with but the gender you feel like being – that is the reality. What deception from the devil!
A wife does not have the right to deny her husband children, and neither does a husband have the right to deny his wife children. God told husbands and wives to become one in having children as well as one in Christ’s purpose together.
We don’t have the right to abort a baby at any stage of life in the womb, and if the doctor tells you it’s you or the baby that can live, go to the Lord instead and hear what HE has to say about.
Man-made forms of birth control are harmful to your body and should not be taken or used. God gave us a natural way to know when we can get pregnant and when we can’t. Study that out, instead of studying any other way to prevent you and your husband from having a child. I believe God has permanently shut the wombs of some wives so that they could adopt children.
If children are a blessing from the Lord, as the Lord says they are, then why are so many women today just not interested in this field of motherhood; the noblest of all fields? Who are they learning from?
We hear about “saving the planet” today by not having any more than one child per family. How ridiculous! So evil! God told us to fear Him, trust Him, and obey what He said to do. He will take care of our future. He is Alpha and Omega, the Beginning and the End, the Creator and Sustainer of all things He created. What good is it to worry about things we have no control over. If we try to take control of what belongs to the control of our Creator God – we will only cause unlimited trouble for ourselves. I’d say man has caused more trouble in this world by disobeying God than we can find solutions for – apart from humbly going to God with repentance.