Proverbs 31 Woman – Chapter 6 – True Beauty

True beauty is not about how you look but how you see others and treat others, how you see yourself and treat yourself as a daughter of God’s.


Patience and understanding are part of true beauty. When your husband is going through some kind of tribulation (trial) he needs you to stand on the side of truth and holiness, and not necessarily on his side. Just pray for him and love him through what he’s going through whether he caused his own problems or not. We don’t need to lookout for our husband. God looks out for His men. We simply need to understand how to pray for our husband, and encourage him. This is a beautiful thing to God. This gets all of God’s attention when you humbly pray and boldly ask Him for something!


Mostly what we see with Christian wives today is downright ugly when it comes to how they talk about their husbands and how they treat their husbands. Many wives suffer needlessly (along with their husbands) because they do not look to the Lord and what He has to say about what they are going through. We are to be women with the power of a gentle quiet spirit; one that takes her every concern and fear to God. This is the inner beauty of a woman which is far more attractive than what she tries to display on the outside of herself.


God will honor a wife or dishonor a wife for her view and treatment of the man she married, no matter if the man she married turns out to be all she hoped for or not. Why would we be so arrogantly deceived in thinking that our husband should be all that WE hoped for? That which WE hope for takes faithful work on OURSELVES. My husband is to measure up to what God wants, not what I want. THEN he will be what I need my husband to be for me and our children.


Holy women today have many contenders to face and stand against. But, one thing is for certain and that is when a proud worldly woman is in the presence of a confident godly woman – the worldly woman inwardly feels judged, even condemned by the godly woman without even one word haven been spoken by the godly woman. It’s the strong presence of genuine beauty in a godly woman that is convicting and therefore offensive to worldly women.


I want to take 1 Peter 3:3-6 and state it a little differently, so that it relates in our day:


Your beauty does not come from what you put on your body or do to your body – such as face lifts, breast enlargements, tummy-tucks, tattoos, short skirts, low-cut and see through blouses, body piercings, fake and fancy nails, and all the rest. Designer clothes and make-up might make you feel pretty on the outside, but what about the inside; the true you? Your beauty treatments should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a tender and trustworthy spirit, which is of great value to your husband and of great worth to God. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. Their sparkle and happiness came from their peaceful submissive attitudes towards their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and even called him her master. You are her wise and noble daughters if you do what is right in God’s eyes, and do not fear the foolish choices and ways of your husband. Fear will turn very ugly on you, so trust God instead. This will affect everything in a good way.


Women of old understood how to clothe themselves with strength and dignity. How a woman thinks, talks, works, dresses and behaves – reflects her true nature.


Dignity: Worthiness; nobility; loftiness of appearance or manner; stateliness; calm self-possession and self-respect; an exalted idea of one’s own importance to God.


Do you know how important you are to your husband and children, and to God? If you believe you are important to your husband, children and to God, then how should you think, talk, act, dress, work and plan ahead?


“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future.” Proverbs 31:23-25


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