I’m guilty! I’ve not preferred my own husband over the years as I’ve favored my friends. Can you relate?
Have you gone “to church” or to a party or family get together – walking in with your husband with a sneering attitude towards him but quickly extending your arms to your friends and family; feeling more affection for your friends than for your husband? I have, not within these scenarios, but at home I’ve caught myself sneering at my husband both openly and secretly (with only God as a witness), and then I go to my neighbors welcoming them with home-made cookies, or I invite friends over for dinner and show them more hospitality than I show to my husband (and children). I’ve been guilty more times than I want to remember.
When I catch myself doing this, I judge myself and replace that criticism/sneer/resentment – whatever – with a positive kind thought towards my husband and pray for him in truth and love. If I’ve made him to ‘feel’ my criticism/sneer/resentment – I go to him with an apology asking him to forgive me. For, who am I that I have any right to lift myself above my husband when God put my husband over me and expects me to be his helpmate.