Preferring Your Husband

I’m guilty!  I’ve not preferred my own husband over the years as I’ve favored my friends. Can you relate?


Have you gone “to church” or to a party or family get together – walking in with your husband with a sneering attitude towards him but quickly extending your arms to your friends and family; feeling more affection for your friends than for your husband?  I have, not within these scenarios, but at home I’ve caught myself sneering at my husband both openly and secretly (with only God as a witness), and then I go to my neighbors welcoming them with home-made cookies, or I invite friends over for dinner and show them more hospitality than I show to my husband (and children). I’ve been guilty more times than I want to remember.


When I catch myself doing this, I judge myself and replace that criticism/sneer/resentment – whatever – with a positive kind thought towards my husband and pray for him in truth and love. If I’ve made him to ‘feel’ my criticism/sneer/resentment – I go to him with an apology asking him to forgive me. For, who am I that I have any right to lift myself above my husband when God put my husband over me and expects me to be his helpmate.  

“The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:11-12



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